How to Beat Overwhelm when you are a First Time Mom
Being a mom, it doesn’t come with a manual. You probably couldn’t wait for your first child.
For hours you were day dreaming of holding your baby and singing lullabies to wake up into a reality you were not prepared to deal with.
Sleepless nights, exhaustion, fear and everything in between. Can I also be honest here?
Most of the times husbands they do not understand the physical and mental changes that happening to your body and your emotions after the birth so they can’t relate and be as supportive as you wished they were.
In this article I will try to help you to eliminate as much as possible this frustration and put your self in a position of empowerment and comfort.
First things first. NOBODY is a perfect parent! NOBODY! You learn as you go! So don’t be harsh to yourself.
Asking for help from relatives (when this is possible) can help you to have a smoother transition to your new role as a mom.
Accept the fact that you are in a learning period in your life so acknowledge all of your accomplishments no matter how small they are.
Do not compare yourself with others! Comparison can break you down especially in that period that your body and your emotions gone through a huge transformation and they are fragile. You have your own personality, your own pace of learning and that’s ok.
If you feel that you can’t control your emotions after the birth it’s wise from your side to ask for a professional help. Don’t be ashamed.
Tip of the Day: Don’t expect your house to be a magazine type of home.
In order to be the kind of mother, you always wanted to have, it will help you to sit back, take a deep breath and set your priorities. What is your No1 priority?
The newborn child and everything around it of course. The rest of your household duties can be allocated to someone else or they can be done at another time.
As time goes by, you will find your own rhythm and you will establish your own routines that will help you go through your day smoothly.
If morning cleaning suits you better do that. If night cleaning suits you better do that. If meal planning helps you, do it once a week. If not, try a 2 days meal planning to free up some time.
I don’t want to make this article super long. If you get something from this piece of content, is that you are a human being with limitations. You are not a super hero!
Give to yourself permission to grow and learn as you go. If you are not harsh with yourself you will find that sooner than you expected you have adjusted to your new life.